Parking Lot of Horrible Memories

Clearing some photos from the cloud today and came across this post from Cher Lapid (Cher Vallecer Lapid at one time on Facebook, Cher Cher currently).  If I had to guess this post was written some time around the year that her fake personality was unveiled.  I'm positive she posted this for herself because she loves to gossip and engage in drama.  If there is no gossip or drama, she will create it herself, because that's her oxygen. Cher Lapid sweetie, I beg to disagree with your post.  Just because your life is filled with silly drama and gossip that you create and thrive on (you got loose lips eh?), it doesn't mean you're disconnected from your sole purpose in life or lack goals.  Hate to break it to yah, but that's all you're ever gonna amount to.  Drama and gossip are all that can fit in your dull brain and hateful heart, these two are YOUR meaningful goals and the sole purpose of your pathetic life.  Admit it. Embrace it. Own it. No need to shy a...

 For years I had tried to divert these negative emotions elsewhere.  I got my MBA, learned new skills at my job, even tried learning Spanish!  Don't get me wrong, Cher wasn't the first nasty person who has wronged me.  I have come across my fair share of unreasonable, mean, vile and downright foolish characters.  Disengaging and diverting my attention elsewhere became an effective strategy for me. I stay away from negative beings, refrain from talking about them to anyone (because it's a waste of time really, one or two venting sessions amongst my closest circle should be more than enough) and I immerse myself to what's good and positive so after awhile, the misdeeds of these toxic people  become just a distant memory.  In most cases, I've forgiven (but not forgotten) so I can move on without having to cause disruption on anyone's lives.  I've done it a dozen times so ignoring Cher and focusing on other endeavors that will enrich me positively was...

Now my daughter is estranged from her dad.  If this was Cher's goal all along then she had succeeded.  Tata's relationship with her father hadn't been tight to begin with, mostly due to the fact that he didn't raise her.  He would visit our daughter, have her over on Holidays, and occasionally called her.  She spent weekends with him, Cher and their son whenever her school schedule permitted, but the journey to that real father-daughter relationship was still a long road. Well, Cher's behavior and nasty intentions brought that to a screeching halt. Let's backtrack a bit, I pretty much single-handedly raised Tata with no financial assistance from  BD .  When Tata was eight years old, I finally had the courage to take  BD  to court to demand child support, I was mostly thinking about our daughter's future (i.e, college fund), so in 2006 the court ordered  BD  to pay $163 a month in child support.   BD  was slighted that...

After speaking to  A  for almost 2 hours, I tried my very best to stop myself from driving to Corona, CA and dragging Cher Lapid   by the hair down stairs from her apartment.  I can tell you that it was one of the most difficult things I had to do. As days went by, one of the things that Cher   mentioned on her obviously fake apology to my daughter bothered me, there's a lot of things that bothered me about this low-life's behavior but this one was glaring. I couldn't believe how mellow  BD 's reaction was after his daughter was maligned by his wife!  Did Cher   really tell  BD  the truth about what she said about his daughter?  Did Cher even mention it to him at all? Of course not!  If there's one thing that I learned from all this, it's to never trust Cher.  She is dishonest and undeniably two-faced. How do I tell  BD  what happened when we don't really talk to each other?  Oh I know, I can show him i...

 Visibly shaken and infuriated, I called my friend  A  (nicknamed P) who happens to be  BD 's sister and  2FB 's sister-in-law.  I shared with her what happened and what  P  told me about his Facebook messenger conversation with  2FB .  I felt bad for  A  because she was put in this position, I had a solid proof of  2FB's  real thoughts so  A  had no choice but to confirm that  2FB  indeed hates us and the fact that her husband and I had a daughter.  She hates his past, a past that she knew way before marrying  BD .  Suddenly, my daughter and my existence became unacceptable to her. Oh and all that goodwill that I thought I was extending to strengthen our family bond for the sake of my daughter?   2FB  hated it.  She felt that I looked down on her every time I handed her some of my son's clothes so her son could use them.  She felt I was condescending be...

You think you know her?  She is as fake as her smile, as hateful as her heart and as ugly as her character.  This right here is the REAL and UNVARNISHED personality of Cher Lapid aka  2FB ,  also known as Cherissa Lapid, Cherissa Celeste Lapid, Cherissa Celeste Vallecer, Cher Vallecer. Months turned into years and we continued this dance.  Tata spent countless weekends with  BD  and  2FB , they even attended her Middle School graduation in 2012 and they met my daughter's friends.  Everything continued to be fine...until that one day in October of 2013. Quick background:  I happen to be close with some of  BD 's siblings despite the fact that we didn't end up together, I maintained communication with them because of my daughter.  I figured if I couldn't have a direct communication path with  BD , I could at least supplement that by maintaining my friendship with his family members who I could count on whenever Tata was in t...

I began to suspect something was amiss when I saw some strange posts on  2FB's  Facebook and Instagram.  We were not friends on any social media, but she was connected to my daughter so I happened to see a couple of her posts.  Here's one post on her Facebook account under her married name, Cher V. Lapid: This post by Cher Lapid was clearly aimed at me.  I was the only girlfriend that  BD  had before  2FB .  We were each other's firsts, so this post smelled 99.99% about me and my letters to  BD .  By the way, if you guys have not figured it out by now, I love to write.  I wrote down my feelings a lot.  I thought there was no better way to wade through my emotions than to first start writing them down, so thinking that these letters that she was making fun of were mine, was not a long shot. The post was mean-spirited and disrespectful of my past with her husband.  How would she feel if her letters to an ex was made a s...

BD  met  2FB  while working at  SM , one of the biggest malls in the Philippines.  He was in charge of computers, hardware used for sales such as the cashier's machine, etc.  Tech support if you may.   2FB  was working for  Watsons , a then cosmetic store (they have expanded over the years). I was not  exactly sure what her position at the store was, but I could guess that she was an expert at well, the cosmetics industry.  She loves to apply and wear makeup which is still one of her focus to this day.  Later on, I learned that she graduated with an Occupational Therapy degree but had not used her college education as a profession.  She followed her heart to the retail industry which is not something to sneeze at.  How many of us have the courage to abandon years of education to follow our true calling?   2FB  certainly was courageous.  Fortunately for me, my years of education led me to my pa...